Still Avoiding The Elephant In The Room, Making A Friend, And A Close Encounter With Mortality

I think the title pretty much says it all about my day. Not sure what more I could have fitted in really. There is a silent drama playing out, A bit of introspection and reflection, some decision making, socializing, a cooking lesson, a lesson in eating, a friend I relied on to save the day, some art, and some Rammstein to smooth over everything and link the scenes, filling in the mood music. 

Now Rammstein may seem like a very loud and angry noise to some. I once thought so years ago. Now I have a good appreciation of the talent, art, and messages. Now I realize how much I missed due to some initial misjudgment and bias. I don't mind the all German language as I have researched the English translations and now can explain the songs. And beside all that their videos are amazing, cinematic quality. No silly dancers, an artistic complement to the music and songs.

Back to the day.

I slept okay considering bedtime was 2am, and awake at 5:30am. My head was heavy, still processing the parrot, the elephant in the room, and the whale in the bar. And I have been doing it all day to various extents. If you don't get my reference see the previous post.

I did lots of domestics at no real speed, showered, lunch, then looked for something to do for an hour or so. I decided to work on a piece that I got at the op-shop with rusty and dirty metal work I set about sorting out. It was a welcome task as it required focus and concentration.

At 1:30pm my friend JV arrived. We had arranged a meet last week for coffee and chat. What a great chat. I really enjoyed my time with her talking all sorts of things, including the parrot, the elephant in the room (also in bar), and the whale in the bar. We could have talked much longer, both of us opening up on tough subjects. You can't do that with everybody.

 

After she left I worked on some art, then made a excellent dinner of rump steak, and a carbonara variant with lots of vege. A great meal.

I was eating and texting JV, when a piece of the steak became very firmly lodged in my throat just above where it meets the windpipe from the nose. It really was lodged firmly in place. I could breathe through nose if I kept calm, and I could not dislodge the steak or vomit it up. I had the bright idea of letting JV know and she came immediately, she lives 800m away and has medical experience. She also had her husband. 

I had stayed calm, as relaxed as possible in a situation where my head was wanting to panic. Some Heimlich procedures from JV helped to move it slightly. Her husband had greater strength and moved it enough that it slowly moved down and out. What a relief. It really was. 

I learned a few years ago to keep calm in worse situations that were more life threatening from drowning, and it still happens, so keeping calm when you can feel beyond helpless is normal for me now.

Tonight I have had some chats while I finished the next art piece, another Kea, and it was easy to do, the memories were not bad, some very satisfying. It was my last year in high school, and I was skipping art class, I hated most of the class. I was in the then 7th Form Common Room, doing art there. I got in trouble for skipping class again. The funny thing is the artwork and that it spawned got me great acclaim. I work best in creativity on my own terms, still do.

It is getting on, and I have had an idea that is doing right, yet it may cost me a friendship in the process of helping that friend and doing the right thing. Needs some processing.

Aroha to you all, lets be thankful for real friends, especially in your time of need.

Geogina